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The fact is that Chinese parents do things that seem provocative, unimaginable, even illegal,
to opinionated Westerners. Chinese mothers can dispense with formal courtesies and say to an
obese child who gorges on food, "Hey fatty, lose some weight." By contrast, Western parents
must be humane, tiptoe around the issue, talk in terms of "health", and never ever mention
the f-word. And still their kids end up in therapy for eating disorders and a negative
self-image. I've thought long and hard about how Chinse parents can get away with what they do,
and I think there are three ideological differences between Chinese and Western parents.
Westerners preach respecting the children's individuality, encouraging them to pursue their
true passions, supporting their choices, and providing a positive and nurturing environment.
But while Western children may have a high opinion of themselves and glowing self-esteem, how
do they perform in the real world? Chinses parents protect their children by armoring them for
the future, letting them see what they're capable of, and conferring upon them skills, work
habits, and inner confidence that no one can ever take away. When the time comes to perform,
Chinese children have a blueprint for success; they know how to compete with the best the
world has to offer. The proof is in the pudding!